This morning I had to ask myself why my mind was holding on like a dog with a bone to a certain idea. The idea was of fixing someone elses life. I imagined conversations. I imagined inviting this person to lunch. I also imagined the unintended outcome of indignation from the other person. I had to ask myself, what about this person's situation is my mind grasping on to. What about this situation concerns and bothers me so much. What is the drama I’m trying to create in my own life?
I realized after a nice walk, listening to beautiful music and seeing smiling faces, that there is no drama. My focus is on living my life and creating the art, music, and writing that flows through me and onto the page. It was a relief to realize that I am not responsible for fixing anyone. I can only live as an example being my true self and hope that others see that as a calling to live as their own true selves.
No amounts of pleading or lecturing will ever make anyone change. And many times we can unintentionally deflate the other person’s own desire to find their way or force them unto paths that are detours. However, it is up to us and our personal and spiritual development to resist the desire to not only give advice but to follow the advice of others, whether they be news announcers, advertisements, articles, well-meaning friends and friends with hidden agendas and that goes double for family.
The only advice we should be heeding is from those who have personally walked the path we wish to walk. And the most important advice is from our higher-selves that is connected to all and knows why we have incarnated in this life at this time. This higher self speaks to us not in traditional language but through the wind and the trees and events and nature. The last chapter of a book I’m reading, Inspiration, by Wayne Dyer is about the four ways that he experiences spirit speaking to him. Feelings, nature, events, and people are all ways spirit speaks to us.
Perhaps my own resistance to finishing this book (I’d like to think that I was savoring every word) is directly related to my ego grasping onto someone else’s drama and trying to make it my own. Now, I’m asking my ego the question. “Do we not have enough drama of our own?” And the voice which has become quiet tries to mutter, “but, this is our drama, but.” And now it sulks off like a reprimanded child. I know it will be back; and it is my job to be ready.
Namaste,
Callie
Friday, October 23, 2009
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
The Wisdom of Ruben
Since my car is wobbling on 3 wheels and one donut, and the driver's side door is falling apart and completely inoperable ( I have to crawl through the back door to the front) and the nice roadside assistance man who changed my tire told me my shocks are shot, I am finding the zen in my car woes.
After filling Rubin, my mechanic, in on the events of my life the last year, he told me, "Callie, jou know what jou need to do, get these people out of your life, they no good." I replied, "Yeah, I have to just let go of all the bad people." He then gave me a look of disapproval that I understood. I immediately rephrased what I had said, "They are not bad, just not good for me. I can wish them well and let them go out of my life." He said "Yeah, that's more like it. They not bad. You can't have everyone in your life, sometimes you let them go, and maybe they come back, maybe not."
This reminded me of a yogic mantra I learned in my teacher training. "I love what comes, and I love what goes."
This taught me to let go of jobs, people, cloths etc., things that no longer fit into my growing life any more. By doing this I made room for new wonderful fitting people, jobs, and things. This may sound harsh, but when people drag you down it's a sign that you are not good for them either. You're doing you both a favor by letting them go.
There will always be the keepers you have in your life forever. And you know who they are.
Namaste...
After filling Rubin, my mechanic, in on the events of my life the last year, he told me, "Callie, jou know what jou need to do, get these people out of your life, they no good." I replied, "Yeah, I have to just let go of all the bad people." He then gave me a look of disapproval that I understood. I immediately rephrased what I had said, "They are not bad, just not good for me. I can wish them well and let them go out of my life." He said "Yeah, that's more like it. They not bad. You can't have everyone in your life, sometimes you let them go, and maybe they come back, maybe not."
This reminded me of a yogic mantra I learned in my teacher training. "I love what comes, and I love what goes."
This taught me to let go of jobs, people, cloths etc., things that no longer fit into my growing life any more. By doing this I made room for new wonderful fitting people, jobs, and things. This may sound harsh, but when people drag you down it's a sign that you are not good for them either. You're doing you both a favor by letting them go.
There will always be the keepers you have in your life forever. And you know who they are.
Namaste...
Monday, September 28, 2009
Every Breath is Good
Sometimes being thankful for the little things in life seems so far fetched. When your car is broken and cost $6,000 for past due payments and to pay the mechanic to get it out of the garage like what has happened to my friend, or when your mechanic tells you "I won't touch it," like what happened to another friend, or just when your tire is flat as mine was this morning, it's good to remember that every breath is good.
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